Limited social skills
Temper tantrum & Not following directions
Screen Time & weight issues
Disrespectful Behavior, bullying & violence
Scared to try a new activity ( easy to say no )
How to fix it
What may happen if you ignore it ?
Building Confidence & Eliminating Anxiety
"You get up at that podium to give your speech and you look like there is a bear in the room about to eat you. I don't see a bear anywhere, so stop freaking out."
--- University Public Speaking Professor
Did you know that your brain has the same chemical response to rejection from other people as it does to sustaining a major physical injury? No wonder it's so easy to feel extremely stressed over seemingly harmless tasks or situations. How do we help our children overcome these hurdles and grow into successful, mature adults?
A lot of parents avoid putting their kids in situations that make them anxious or uncomfortable, because your child's discomfort makes you anxious. This approach sets them up to be anxious adults. Kids don't know what is best for them, and need your guidance. Letting a child choose to avoid new, different or stressful situations re-affirms to the kid that he or she CAN'T handle things and can runaway from struggles and problems.
Teaching kids how to deal with discomfort, struggle and even fail is the most important lesson you can give, that only happens if you allow them to experience a situation from it start to conclusion. It makes people Tenacious and Humble. It helps focus on self-improvement instead of the simplicity of success and failure.
Not firm with their Kids
Quitting easily & not facing challenges
Don't appreciate our hard work ( Just Daycare )
Choosing a school based on price & convenience
Taekwondo is not a priority among many other activities
How to fix it
What may happen if you ignore it ?
My Kids Don't Listen
There are a lot of reasons for that, much of it biological. It requires a commitment to setting expectations by the parent AND the surrounding community. "It takes a whole village to raise a child" is not an exaggeration.
Ages 5 - 9: Video Link
Keeping Self-Defense and Good Life Choices in mind, the act of sheltering your kids from the world will come back to haunt you. At the age of 4, the word why will become part of your child's vocabulary for a reason. Expectations are best taught through application and lessons. A simple example: Take your four year old to practice crossing a busy street repeatedly rather than hiding out on the playground away from any cars . . . ever. They will under stand the importance of rules through experience and a healthy dose of fear. It will also help engrain into our children that our job as a parent is help keep them safe and our advice is important. Hopefully they remember these when they are cranky, stubborn teenagers.
Ages 10 Through Teenager: Video Link
Behavior In Social Situations
What is the first thing Arab's traditionally teach their child?
How to formally greet people.
--- Culture Professor @ Al Buraimi School for Ex Pats
What if every store you went into, you had your child greet the Cashier and from the time they figured out how to wave until he or she is seven years old?
Setting expectations in social situations early on is extremely important. Mr. Raed and I always get compliments at restaurants for having "such incredibly well behaved children". I didn't understand it was that big of a deal, until we started going to dinner with friends and their children
Children playing chase and bumping into or tripping waiters ( I see this almost everywhere I go ), screaming fits and tantrums, talking over and interrupting adults, fighting with each other or sitting in improper and dangerous positions in chairs. The kids never graduated from "whatever they do is fine, because the high chair is easy to clean and I have an extra change of clothes in the diaper bag." . Convenience was the priority, not learning, because it was easier for the adults not to go through the process. This makes children disconnected from the environment and community.
My kids are NOT less prone to "naughtiness" than other children, so how did it turn out differently? (Mr. Raed takes 100% credit for this).
Never used high chairs (So we never tolerated or encouraged messy eating).
Mr. Raed kept the baby is his arms or lap every meal even before it could eat solids (sharp utensils moved far away) until he or she was tall enough to sit properly in a chair by themselves. We often decline high chairs at restaurants.
The children didn't leave the table until dinner was over, so they were not wiggly expecting to go play.
Coloring pads and multi person applications on a phone (battle ship or word games) were encouraged as ways to quietly pass the time while waiting for food.
It is a process that starts from the time they are born, until they are about five or six years old.
(1) Kids lead their parents to make poor decisions.
Yes, fun is good to motivate kids but once we level up (like running a mile & more discipline) kids complain
"I dooon't liiike it" ... For your kid’s sake ... DON'T reply "Honey, you don't have to do it"
(2) Taekwon-do is not a priority among many other activities.
Too many activities will lead to failure and burn out. Kids lose confidence seeing others performing better.
(3) Students and parents want new belts even with low attendance.
Be patient & let your kids earn their belts. Don’t let your ego be your worst enemy.
(4) Choosing a Taekwon-do school based on price and convenience.
We are worth what you pay for ( big school with quality classes & actively developing our skills )
(5) Poor management for expenses and priorities.
Please mange and plan correctly to have opportunities like national & international competitions.
(6) Joining only for " look at me & resume reasons".
The most important reasons should be having a healthy body & mind and self-defense.
(7) I am quitting because I am not the best.
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